OK, so people don’t tend to pay attention to or like things they can’t relate to. That would include things like:
- Someone telling a really long, seemingly pointless story with little or no regard for your time or interest
- Hearing a new song from your favorite band at a concert. (You’d rather hear their hits, right?)
- Reading about some new book someone is reading, how great it is, and how much you need to read it
Well, I want to tell you about some of the ideas from this new book I started, but don’t worry, I’ll try to make it interesting…
The idea is : That we spend too much time either trying to become someone else or at least a version of ourself that someone else thinks that we should be. Of course, we all know that we should care most about what God thinks about our lives than anyone else. That’s the easy part.
The hard part is – we hardly ever put this kind of thing into practice.
John Ortberg is the guy that wrote this book and says that there are any given number of scenarios in which we might tend to not be ourselves: (I added some of these)
- Around “influential” people – we tend to say things that will project a good image of ourselves
- Around people who don’t know certain things about us – we only say things that would flow with what they know about us. Of course, we don’t want to reveal our deep secrets or anything that would make us look bad.
This “new idea” thing (and what I’ve been trying to live in my life lately) is that at the end of the day, the only opinion about your life that matters is God’s, and we really should believe that through our actions and interactions with people. Otherwise, acting in ways to either impress or hide things from other people is simply an example of falsehood and idolatry:
Falsehood – because we are living a lie and portraying a version of ourself that just isn’t the truth
Idolatry – because we place the image of how we are perceived before God and his take on things
But at the end of the day, the big idea is that God has a plan for our lives and that our task is to become the “me” that he wants us to be. Life is a process. But we’re never making any ground if we’re trying to be someone else or someone else’s idealized version of ourself.
The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”
I Samuel 16:7